Stop Having White Kids .Org: Considering Others! Stop Having Kids acknowledges the world’s unjust suffering, injustice, and death, with birth as the reason. As a result, it is morally important that we attempt to avoid as many new lives as possible. We encourage reinvesting time, energy, and resources into existing people and places instead of promoting new life.
Our purpose as a collective liberation movement (humans and nonhumans) is to raise awareness about antinatalist/vegantinatalist ideology and a child-free lifestyle. In addition to manufacturing apparel and accessories that promote critical thought, introspection, affirmation, and positive change, the company also provides educational resources and materials. Every society and culture highly promotes having children (rather than caring for already existing lives and mitigating harm). We are doing our best to combat the long-term harm caused by social pressure to conform to unconsidered customs, practices, and beliefs.
We hope to motivate people to question societal expectations. It is our mission to inspire people to live their best lives. We set an example by assisting humans and other animals in many ways, including volunteering our time and presence to important, inspirational, and mind-expanding demonstrations and dialogues, free food drives for humans and their companion animals, and waste cleanups. Through positive messages and activities, we hope to improve everyone’s quality of life.
Self-Confident, Future Problems Considered
We want a world where people examine the decision and ask if their goals are self-centered and if birthing another human is a good idea. But should we force others into existence when we know there is no permission, desire, or unselfish need? We believe it is best and most courteous for humans not to exist, as they will face serious and severe difficulties (that could have been prevented) that endanger all species and ecosystems on the planet. Each additional human is a gamble. We feel that having children is unethical and irrational, despite the reality that birth is a natural process.
Come Home to the Resistance, White Parents of White Kids
I recently joined over 1,000 people in Park Slope, Brooklyn, to oppose Trump’s plan. Heb Jamal, a 17-year-old Muslim student, spoke against the travel restriction and Trump’s anti-immigrant policies. DeSegregating New York City Schools, one of the nation’s most segregated, is her passion. She asked the mostly white, wealthy audience, many of whom were parents, to admit that we and our children had benefited from a rigged educational system.
The somber room grew quieter as we reflected on our roles as new resisters and veteran collaborators. We’re over the 100-day milestone of a white nationalist administration. Upstairs, in the public realm, I phone my politicians and protest with my family; downstairs, in the subterranean realm, I wade through the mud of my own whiteness. I don’t want to be here.
This was the question asked to me and other attendees of an Undoing Racism class I attended a month after the election. Although I’ve worked in social justice for most of my adult life, the Black Lives Matter movement forced me to face my identity as a white father of a white child. I’ve expressed concern about racism in our household, but not urgency. Of course, I’ve rarely talked to other white parents about raising the next generation of white people in my nearly 16 years of fatherhood.
Why are you white?
We sat in a tight circle for two days. The trainers were as varied as the room, some older. Surprisingly, Trump didn’t get their attention. They discussed race in America with a calm calmness, a distance from the present. As folks began to discuss what it’s like to be black, Latina, Chinese-American, or white, I began to disengage from the news and quiet down. I realized why the room’s emotional temperature was so carefully managed. This was not group therapy, therefore silence was observed. It was a collective witnessing process, watching each other tell the truth.
I expected to be fully acknowledged for my white privilege at this workshop. I’ve been doing this for years. But I didn’t expect myself to say, “How convenient to have a bathroom everywhere. This freedom to enter whatever building I desire. I like that as a white woman I am never seen as a threat and always smiled at.” This, I’ve learned, is best experienced as an admission of fact, not as a confession of sin. To own my prejudice, I’ve had to depersonalize it. To find it in my formative institutions. To comprehend racial superiority as an inherited condition, a perspective I was socialized to bear and convey.
Does Stop Having Kids have a kid?
Nope. But even if they did, Stop Having Kids would remain valid, sincere, relevant, and valuable. Does causing harm by drunk driving imply someone can’t start an organization or movement to persuade people to reconsider drinking and driving? Is that individual a hypocrite since they acted contrary to their current message and mission? If the founder had a child in the past, it shouldn’t affect the message or their ability to advocate for a different way of thinking and living.
It’s more of a thing I can hear, see, and smell. My whiteness is still a work in progress, set up the day I was born. We don’t want additional kids to add to existing kids’ pain. Stop Having Kids wants everyone to recognize that having a child is not an act of love in and of itself, but assisting other children in need is. Kids are invited to attend our activities.
Stop Having Kids despises kids?
No. We do not hate children and oppose all acts of violence against them. Sadly, many adults who despise children still have them (biologically or non-biologically), a terrible reality that saddens us immensely. We think that all children deserve a world free of abuse and discrimination, a world where they can reach their full potential. We believe that children should not be forced into an increasingly dangerous, crumbling, and authoritarian environment rife with human rights abuses.
How much does STOP HAVING KIDS
No. We don’t dislike our parents. We have no intention to shame humans who have had children or are having children in the post-apocalyptic world. We want to reach as many individuals as possible, especially those who have the privilege of choosing whether or not to have children. We hope that as many people as possible choose not to reproduce. In an ideal world, we’d focus on helping the billions of current people who are in need, and whose lives are equally as valuable and important as anyone’s blood family. We even invite parents to our outreach programs, and we’ve been a safe place for parents to talk about parental regret and other difficulties.
Is Stop Having Kids pro-choice?
Absolutely, if the pregnant woman wants it. We support freedom of choice for all (regardless of what outside pressure wants or expects). We believe that anyone seeking an abortion should be able to do so without fear of harassment. For anti-abortion activists to call themselves “pro-life” while openly opposing people exercising their rights to life and body is demeaning and contradictory. We are pro-life and pro-choice. We view those opposed to abortions to be anti-choice and generally anti-life.
